It takes a village to raise a dream.
That is just one of the reason I want to have a polygamous/polyamorous blended family. Not only does it benefit the members of the family but everyone learns something about who they are. Legally speaking I would be the legal wife (I’m engaged so it makes sense that I would be the first wife right) and any others won’t be a wife in any terms (in our coven it would be something different) but can, to us at least, be considered family. Of course if things evolved past “girlfriend” status I expect that they’d live with us and would be something of a glorified roommate,to the public excluding people we trust not to go all crazy on us, in which we all share in taking care of everything that must be done: emotionally, financially and other things. In this family environment, everyone works together to ensure that the children are cared for as well as their fellow spouses.
It takes a village to raise a child.
Within and expanded family there are many experiences to help the children learn. Of course, there is that stigma that with so many different views of child rearing how can there not be friction. Oh, there definitely will be, but just like in traditional marriage people must sit down and talk about how they want to do this…
I’d like to add that this isn’t something I just what to do for the hell of it. I hold marriage in very high esteem and disapprove greatly of divorces ( not that if you had one I think you are a bad person.I just can’t see me having one). I know religion is important to a lot of people who practice poly, but I can’t say that poly is a religious thing for me. I grew up in a family that had different beliefs and the family my fiance and I will be starting has mixed beliefs( I’m a pagan whose immediate family consist of Jehovah’s Witnesses and He is from a family that consists of Catholics and Jehovah’s Witnesses). I believe that marriage is something special when looked at as something where you share whatever burdens come your way, between all partners instead of being controlling and lofty.
I don’t see polygamy in the view that my husband has two other marriages. I see it as one unique union in which we all bring in different aspects to it.
Not saying that this will be easy, but it is a unique experience